It’s become somewhat public knowledge now that Tony Parker, a basketball player for the San Antonio Spurs, and Eva Longoria, an actress from Desperate Housewives, have filed for divorce.  To be more specific Eva Longoria has filed for divorce citing irreconcilable differences.  The differences stem from Tony cheating on Eva with a fellow basketball player’s wife.  It is widely believed that the player’s wife is Erin Berry, who is also getting divorced from her husband, Brent Barry.  If nothing else, this again reinforces the idea that getting someone’s name tattooed on your body is rarely a good idea as Eva Longoria will probably be able to attest to (she has Tony’s jersey number on the back of her neck). 



Avoiding a Drawn-Out Ugly Divorce

In the example of Tony Parker, his newest conquest, Erin Berry, is going through her own divorce with her own allegations of cheating.  The only thing that could further complex the situation would be for one of the couples to distribute a sex tape.  In anger, one, or more, of the parties involved could try to release damaging evidence of the other.  While a divorce clearly indicates that a couple no longer wants to be married, the process of getting divorced does not have to be ugly, but some times it will become unpleasant. Often, particularly if there are children from the marriage, it is important to keep things amicable because the divorced spouses must continue to communicate after the divorce is finalized. Just how that can be accomplished depends on the circumstances of the divorcing couple.  Here, there are some examples of ways to avoid an ugly divorce.

Prenuptial Agreements

Depending on what state you live in, the property that you and a spouse have may be considered joint property or separate property.  However, almost every state will allow you to form a prenuptial agreement.  A prenuptial agreement can be incredibly helpful.  This agreement lists all individually owned property, such as homes and businesses, family assets, stocks and bonds, savings accounts as well as debts, and specifies what will and will not remain individually owned property after the legalization of marriage.  Prenuptial agreements also specify whether spousal support will be paid in the event of a divorce, and the intentions regarding distribution of individually owned property upon death.

How To File A Divorce

With divorce rates around 50%, the chances of having to eventually file a divorce seems likely. It’s not the most incredibly fun activity, but you must first file papers at the courthouse (a “Complaint”).  Many states have the necessary forms available online.  Once filed, the papers must then be delivered to your spouse (“served”).  The rules associated with what needs to be included in the Complaint and how the Complaint must be “served” on your spouse are complicated and technically specific.  Doing either without consulting a lawyer first is not a good idea

What do you think?  What are you most concerned about?