By:  LINDSEY O'NEILL, ESQ

I heard Bruce Hornsby's song, Mandolin Rain, today on the radio.  I never change the channel when I hear this song.... the lyrics and the music feel so powerful to me.   "Listen to the tears roll... down my face as she turns to go" ... auughh, always gets me!

I started thinking about how many people in the world are right in the middle of the pain of a break-up, a divorce, the end of a meaningful relationship and hoping for them that music could help to ease their pain.  It seems sometimes the most painful of break-ups can result in the messiest of divorces.   Hurting each other over and over again.  Maybe the pain and the anger can feel so debilitating that it can feel like lashing back harder, meaner, more hurtful, at the other person could somehow make your own pain feel smaller.  I don't know, but I do know that the pain of a break-up or divorce is one of the most difficult challenges in life.

While most people hope they never have to seek the advice of a divorce lawyer, if divorce is inevitable the assistance of an experienced, professional and kind attorney can be invaluable.  A good attorney will not only advocate for your best interests when it comes to the issues (financial support, custody, division of property), but will also understand other aspects of your "best interests" - such as the ability to resolve a painful experience and move-on from the negativity.

Now, I don't expect your lawyer to create some sort f playlist on your iPod of all kinds of sad break-up songs, or even empowering break-up songs..... no.  But, to the extent music has the power to transcend some of our more "thinking" side, then maybe it can help you not only get through the pain involved in the end of a relationship, but also through a divorce process as amicably as possible.   Whatever break-up songs hit home for you.... here's hoping it helps.

Listen to the mandolin rain
Listen to the music on the lake
Listen to my heart break every time she runs away
Listen to the banjo wind
A sad song drifting low
Listen to the tears roll
Down my face as she turns to go....

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