Comments on: How-To Forgive After an Affair… and Save Your Marriage http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/ Lawyer Blog | Attorney Blog | Read and Post Fri, 20 Nov 2009 20:47:12 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Lindsey http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3792 Lindsey Wed, 27 May 2009 18:01:26 +0000 http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/#comment-3792 Hi Cris. I can certainly understand what a difficult and frustrating situation this is for you and your family. Infidelity is devastating. Before you make a decision regarding what to do next, I suggest you speak to a divorce attorney who can explain your options. After 18 years of marriage, there will certainly be marital assets that would be divided in accordance with your state's laws and any agreements you have between you. There may also be the issue of custody, visitation, child support and alimony. Many people find it empowering to understand their legal rights should the marriage end in divorce, regardless of whether you ever end up filing for it. You can find an attorney through the directory located at www.lawinfo.com. I do hope you can benefit from some good counseling in the meantime. Good luck to you! Hi Cris. I can certainly understand what a difficult and frustrating situation this is for you and your family. Infidelity is devastating. Before you make a decision regarding what to do next, I suggest you speak to a divorce attorney who can explain your options. After 18 years of marriage, there will certainly be marital assets that would be divided in accordance with your state’s laws and any agreements you have between you. There may also be the issue of custody, visitation, child support and alimony. Many people find it empowering to understand their legal rights should the marriage end in divorce, regardless of whether you ever end up filing for it. You can find an attorney through the directory located at http://www.lawinfo.com.

I do hope you can benefit from some good counseling in the meantime.

Good luck to you!

]]> By: Cris http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3791 Cris Tue, 26 May 2009 16:49:47 +0000 http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/#comment-3791 I have been married 18 yrs and have 3 children. Found out in NOv 08 that my husband has cheated on me again. This is the 3rd time and I am tired and don't want to move on. I do love him, but am just tired. He states that he loves me and that he has just been stupid, but this is the 2rd time in 18 yrs. Do you have any suggesstions? I really need some advice. I want to make the right decision. I have been married 18 yrs and have 3 children. Found out in NOv 08 that my husband has cheated on me again. This is the 3rd time and I am tired and don’t want to move on. I do love him, but am just tired. He states that he loves me and that he has just been stupid, but this is the 2rd time in 18 yrs. Do you have any suggesstions? I really need some advice. I want to make the right decision.

]]> By: AD http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3416 AD Sun, 08 Jun 2008 15:30:56 +0000 http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/#comment-3416 I forgave my wife but i find myself wondering why she cheated on me, i asked her she didn't really know why ( it was only in writing she said,the wrote back and forth in a journal and it was very explicit on his end) . she has to communicate with him because he is a recovering addict and lives on the property, she is head of the department and part of their treatment is that she has to talk to see if treatment has help. She did stop this before i found the journal because she felt it was wrong and if something happen to me she couldn;t imagine life wwithout me. Yet i find myself wondering why she did it? I figure it was because of old ways took over her and she wanted to experience him because they talk about me and she told him i was a beautiful man, husband and father. I forgave my wife but i find myself wondering why she cheated on me, i asked her she didn’t really know why ( it was only in writing she said,the wrote back and forth in a journal and it was very explicit on his end) . she has to communicate with him because he is a recovering addict and lives on the property, she is head of the department and part of their treatment is that she has to talk to see if treatment has help. She did stop this before i found the journal because she felt it was wrong and if something happen to me she couldn;t imagine life wwithout me. Yet i find myself wondering why she did it? I figure it was because of old ways took over her and she wanted to experience him because they talk about me and she told him i was a beautiful man, husband and father.

]]> By: angelica http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3352 angelica Fri, 11 Apr 2008 01:26:57 +0000 http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/#comment-3352 not to blame the other party and build up a new relationship with your spouse and make it work not to blame the other party and build up a new relationship with your spouse and make it work

]]> By: A.C. http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3351 A.C. Thu, 10 Apr 2008 15:16:13 +0000 http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/#comment-3351 i chosen forgiveness, my husband told me he has cut off the relationship with the other woman. Many times he brought up the issue, and told me he didnt do anything wrong. I hv forgave him and accepted the facts calmly without rage and anger. At time he asked me if i am angry, it hurts me even more. i found out the affair on 15 Feb 08 and confronted him on the 22nd Feb 08, he deny first, till i dial up the other woman handphone no. on my handphone. I found out thru intially suspicious and then his phone bill and credit card resits. And i am having so much pain inside me when he deny that he did anything wrong. During the confrontation, he said he was wrong and apologized. Dont know what is going on. i chosen forgiveness, my husband told me he has cut off the relationship with the other woman. Many times he brought up the issue, and told me he didnt do anything wrong. I hv forgave him and accepted the facts calmly without rage and anger. At time he asked me if i am angry, it hurts me even more. i found out the affair on 15 Feb 08 and confronted him on the 22nd Feb 08, he deny first, till i dial up the other woman handphone no. on my handphone. I found out thru intially suspicious and then his phone bill and credit card resits. And i am having so much pain inside me when he deny that he did anything wrong. During the confrontation, he said he was wrong and apologized. Dont know what is going on.

]]> By: SEO Guru http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3298 SEO Guru Tue, 04 Mar 2008 18:33:46 +0000 http://blog.lawinfo.com/2008/03/04/how-to-forgive-after-an-affair-and-save-your-marriage/#comment-3298 WOW, what a difficult topic. We are generally wired to think that there is something better somewhere else. Marriage is no simple commitment. The level of integrity required inside of marriage is significant. It is a learned behaviour, not one that comes naturally. I think sometimes couples expect it to just work out. A successful or satisfying relationship of any kind requires effort. Most couples would say they put in the effort and still don't get the results they want, so they blame the other party. I would suggest taking a closer look at the effort instead of blaimg each other. Something is missing in the actions being taken. So identify actions that will generate the result youw ant. WOW, what a difficult topic. We are generally wired to think that there is something better somewhere else. Marriage is no simple commitment. The level of integrity required inside of marriage is significant. It is a learned behaviour, not one that comes naturally. I think sometimes couples expect it to just work out. A successful or satisfying relationship of any kind requires effort. Most couples would say they put in the effort and still don’t get the results they want, so they blame the other party. I would suggest taking a closer look at the effort instead of blaimg each other. Something is missing in the actions being taken. So identify actions that will generate the result youw ant.

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